Do Wedding Guests Wear Buttonholes?

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Traditionally, wedding guests don't wear buttonholes.

In the UK and in many other countries, this accessory is typically reserved for the main wedding party, helping to distinguish them from guests.

Here at Gorse Hill, we’ve hosted many weddings making us experts in on-the-day etiquette.

Read on to learn more about who usually wears buttonholes, along with answers to some of the most common questions.

Who Typically Wears Buttonholes At A Wedding?

Groom, groomsmen, and father of the groom wearing buttonholes at wedding

Buttonholes are a subtle but meaningful detail on a suit used to highlight those with a special role in the day. The most common people who wear them include:

  • The groom
  • Groomsmen
  • Fathers of the couple
  • Step-parents
  • Grandfathers
  • Ushers
  • Occasionally brothers of the couple

Ultimately, there are no fixed rules. Who wears a buttonhole is entirely up to the couple and how they choose to define their wedding party.

How To Pin A Buttonhole

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We hope you’ve enjoyed this read and now feel clearer on buttonhole etiquette.

If you’re ever unsure about what’s appropriate, the best approach is always to ask the couple directly.

For another great wedding read check out "Who Gives Speeches At Weddings?."

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FAQS Related To Do Wedding Guests Wear Buttonholes?

Do wedding guests wear buttonholes in the UK?

Traditionally, no. In the UK, buttonholes are usually reserved for the groom, groomsmen, close family members, and sometimes ushers.

Who decides who wears buttonholes at a wedding?

The couple typically decide. Buttonholes are often coordinated by the florist and given to selected members of the wedding party on the day.

Is it rude for a guest to wear a buttonhole?

It isn’t considered rude, but it can be seen as inappropriate if it mirrors the wedding party’s flowers or looks too formal. Guests are generally encouraged to avoid anything that could cause confusion. 

Should guests ask before wearing one?

If in doubt, yes. Asking the couple or checking the invitation details helps avoid any awkwardness.

Are buttonholes still popular at modern weddings?

Yes, buttonholes remain popular at modern weddings with designs ranging from a traditional single bloom to dried flower designs.

What is another word for a buttonhole?

Another common word for a buttonhole is a boutonniere. In the UK, it’s more commonly referred to as a buttonhole while boutonniere is used more widely in the US.